An article I read some time back made me think...about people who give, and give and give....
More specifically; about mentors in one's life.
Aristotle is said to have mentored Alexander the great
In Indian mythology; the greatest Mentor is said to be Lord Krishna to Arjuna.
It is said that these mentors were singly responsible for every success in lives of Arjuna and Alexander.
Mentoring today is taken very seriously by most educational institutions and organisations. Even the monthly magazine of the organisation of professionals CPA Australia carries a story in every issue of the magazine and the focus is on mentors and mentees.
In Australia and USA; there are professional platfoms that link mentors to mentees.
Many professionals who have made it big often talk about "...giving back..." through a series of carefully orchestrated, planned business events and through structured mentorship programs.
My attempt today is to write about millions of mentors who just mentor without the rest of the world even getting a hint of it, some of the special qualities that make a mentor. I guess my focus is on people who participate in Life mentoring and not just career mentoring.
As I see it; the most special quality in a mentor is the ability to "give"
To give - time, expertise, advise, help, direction
The second crucial quality is - to be available when needed
All qualifications, all successes, all expertise comes to naught if a mentor does not posses these two qualities.
And overarching all this - is the inherent ability to understand where the mentee is coming from and always keeping the mentee's best interests at heart.
People often talk of king makers who are principally responsible for many moves in the corporate world. What I am talking about is completely different - based on personal experience.
We have had so many mentors who came into our lives at various times and who made a crucial difference. Some have remained with us to walk with us every now and then; others are not in our lives on a daily basis and have probably left us as they realise we have moved on. It is indeed true that we managed to hang on to at least one piece of wisdom that each mentor left with us.
I often think of those one-liners which made a significant difference.
The most powerful one being, "do you see yourself doing this for the rest of your life...?"
And that one line changed the entire course of life for us.
I am trying here to list the contributions of various mentors in our life; needless to say the effect they have had in our life has been phenomenal.
1. These mentors have walked with us through some tough phases of life and not just one's career
2. They have always been available - at even short notice sometimes - to help with feedback on a resume or assistance with drafting an important letter/ proposal
3. They have helped us to start at a new work place and settle in rather quickly by continuous support and sharing of knowledge
4. They have always spared the time when we wanted to toss a few ideas about Life and career plans for the next 5 years
5. They have never hesitated to share everything that they know - and shared their life stories with us enabling learning from their experiences
6. They have provided us with sources of information on subjects where they did not possess expertise
7. The mentors have always operated on the principle of abundance "there is enough space and resources and opportunities for everyone in this world...." and therefore have never felt threatened by sharing the best they can with us
8. Very often, a gentle nudge was all one needed - and they have provided us with helpful hints, nudges to see a situation differently
9. Our mentors have always been available to sit with us and weigh pros and cons of any major decision - at all times maintaining an objective neutral approach, allowing us to choose the best option suitable to our circumstances and comfort
10 Most importantly, our mentors have never hesitated to share their fears about consequences of certain choices we were making - thereby providing us a safe environment to re-assess situations, options and decisions
11. These were people who never lost hope and always helped us see something beyond what seemed like a set back - Their approach to creative/ lateral thinking came from complete concern for us and not just from reading Edward de Bono
12. And finally they were always ready to celebrate a success with us and wish us more of it
To all our mentors - we send you our gratitude.
Thank you for reiterating our own belief that every change can be re-visited
every move can be reassessed, and no decision is ever written in stone.
Thank you for the trust you gave us to talk to you and share without being judged.
Thank you most importantly for giving ....
Thanks to you;
We imbibe all the qualities we have observed in our mentors
and dont hesitate to be a guide/ mentor when we are approached.
PS - this is the article that made me think..
http://www.thehindu.com/life-and-style/metroplus/article2683955.ece
More specifically; about mentors in one's life.
Aristotle is said to have mentored Alexander the great
In Indian mythology; the greatest Mentor is said to be Lord Krishna to Arjuna.
It is said that these mentors were singly responsible for every success in lives of Arjuna and Alexander.
Mentoring today is taken very seriously by most educational institutions and organisations. Even the monthly magazine of the organisation of professionals CPA Australia carries a story in every issue of the magazine and the focus is on mentors and mentees.
In Australia and USA; there are professional platfoms that link mentors to mentees.
Many professionals who have made it big often talk about "...giving back..." through a series of carefully orchestrated, planned business events and through structured mentorship programs.
My attempt today is to write about millions of mentors who just mentor without the rest of the world even getting a hint of it, some of the special qualities that make a mentor. I guess my focus is on people who participate in Life mentoring and not just career mentoring.
As I see it; the most special quality in a mentor is the ability to "give"
To give - time, expertise, advise, help, direction
The second crucial quality is - to be available when needed
All qualifications, all successes, all expertise comes to naught if a mentor does not posses these two qualities.
And overarching all this - is the inherent ability to understand where the mentee is coming from and always keeping the mentee's best interests at heart.
People often talk of king makers who are principally responsible for many moves in the corporate world. What I am talking about is completely different - based on personal experience.
We have had so many mentors who came into our lives at various times and who made a crucial difference. Some have remained with us to walk with us every now and then; others are not in our lives on a daily basis and have probably left us as they realise we have moved on. It is indeed true that we managed to hang on to at least one piece of wisdom that each mentor left with us.
I often think of those one-liners which made a significant difference.
The most powerful one being, "do you see yourself doing this for the rest of your life...?"
And that one line changed the entire course of life for us.
I am trying here to list the contributions of various mentors in our life; needless to say the effect they have had in our life has been phenomenal.
1. These mentors have walked with us through some tough phases of life and not just one's career
2. They have always been available - at even short notice sometimes - to help with feedback on a resume or assistance with drafting an important letter/ proposal
3. They have helped us to start at a new work place and settle in rather quickly by continuous support and sharing of knowledge
4. They have always spared the time when we wanted to toss a few ideas about Life and career plans for the next 5 years
5. They have never hesitated to share everything that they know - and shared their life stories with us enabling learning from their experiences
6. They have provided us with sources of information on subjects where they did not possess expertise
7. The mentors have always operated on the principle of abundance "there is enough space and resources and opportunities for everyone in this world...." and therefore have never felt threatened by sharing the best they can with us
8. Very often, a gentle nudge was all one needed - and they have provided us with helpful hints, nudges to see a situation differently
9. Our mentors have always been available to sit with us and weigh pros and cons of any major decision - at all times maintaining an objective neutral approach, allowing us to choose the best option suitable to our circumstances and comfort
10 Most importantly, our mentors have never hesitated to share their fears about consequences of certain choices we were making - thereby providing us a safe environment to re-assess situations, options and decisions
11. These were people who never lost hope and always helped us see something beyond what seemed like a set back - Their approach to creative/ lateral thinking came from complete concern for us and not just from reading Edward de Bono
12. And finally they were always ready to celebrate a success with us and wish us more of it
To all our mentors - we send you our gratitude.
Thank you for reiterating our own belief that every change can be re-visited
every move can be reassessed, and no decision is ever written in stone.
Thank you for the trust you gave us to talk to you and share without being judged.
Thank you most importantly for giving ....
Thanks to you;
We imbibe all the qualities we have observed in our mentors
and dont hesitate to be a guide/ mentor when we are approached.
PS - this is the article that made me think..
http://www.thehindu.com/life-and-style/metroplus/article2683955.ece